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I’m talking about ‘Secret Santa’/’Kris Kringle’ – that notion of gifting someone you may not necessarily know very well. I’ve been involved with a few of these over the years, playing the game and conforming to all variations of the rules. As I wrote a card for one of the SS/KK I’m involved in this year, I realised that I put a lot of thought and energy into the whole concept. Below are some of the ones I have done/thought of over the years.

1. I’ve always thought of myself as a bit of an open book. I trust people semi-easily, and I tell people things about myself. When it came to Secret Santa/Kris Kringle and having to ‘torture’ your ‘victim’ for a period of time with cryptic clues, I found myself having to be very inventive with the clues I give him/her, so as not to be guessed correctly too early in the game. I once even did a word scramble, but alas, it was a bit too hard for my victim to guess, and I stopped doing that since.

2. “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you”. I could write a whole other post about giving gifts based on the intended recipient’s wants/needs/interests vs giving whatever present you deemed appropriate, “it’s the thought that counts” argument.  But over the years, I find that even with close friends, their preferences change from time to time. When it comes to work Secret Santa, the challenge of sourcing a gift that is remotely aligned to that particular colleague’s wants/needs/interests become that little bit more… daunting, to say the least. So, over the years, I’ve set myself a little detective work, trying to find out a little about my victim’s interests (more often than not involving another work colleague who might know my victim a little bit better than I do), and give a gift accordingly. I pretended that I didn’t know who the gift-giver to my victim was and struck a conversation to find out whether they liked the present or not.

3. This relates more to the Secret Santa present I have to mail out, either to another part of the state I live in, or a different state altogether. Each year, I’ve been involved in Secret Santa with a bunch of close friends I met on an on-line wedding forum many moons ago, when I was planning my own wedding. There were only about 20 of us, and if they were like me in conducting a vigorous detective work, they could probably work out who their Secret Santa is from either the location the mail has originated, or from their handwriting. To that end, I took great pains in posting the gift from a suburb different to the one I live, or work in. I enlisted my darling husband to write the address and sign the ‘Dangerous Goods’ Declaration Form’ on the parcel. I alter the curves and lilt of my handwriting, to ‘stretch’ the Secret Santa game to the very last possible moment.

What about you? What measures have you gone to to ensure that your SS/KK victim doesn’t figure you out so easily?

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